Dating with Dignity Part 2: How I Dated with Dignity and am Now in a Relationship with the Sweetest Man on Earth

When I wrote Dating with Dignity Part 1: The Case of the Disappearing Man – Solved, I had no idea it’d end up being one of my most popular and impactful columns. Women continue to find and comment on it, and the general feedback has been that my words have helped them in some way. Talk about turning a negative experience into a positive one! It’s been about 18 months since I wrote Part 1 and I’m excited to share Part 2 with you, so let’s get started.

Now, I know 18 months might seem like a long time, but please bear in mind that after I wrote Part 1, I didn’t really date at all for about 12 months. I was in Sydney working on getting myself back to New York and, as I saw my future in the USA, I didn’t see much point in dating in Australia. But once I was back in New York – this time for three months instead of one – I hit the ground running and pretty much made up for all the dating I didn’t do over the past year. Let me take you through step-by-step how I dated with dignity and ended up in a relationship with the sweetest man on Earth. (Okay, I might be a little biased there, but you know what I mean.)

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Introducing: Unique Love Story – Professionally written love stories for weddings, anniversaries and precious family keepsakes

I love romantic relationships. I don’t mean having them (although, of course I love that, too). I mean I’m fascinated by them. (After all, I wrote a humorous relationship advice book in an attempt to make sense of my dating experiences.) I’m always asking couples how they met, what made them fall in love and why their partner stands out from everyone else they’ve ever dated. Being a writer, it finally dawned on me that I should make a career out of this and combine my love of writing with my love of relationships.

Introducing: Unique Love Story (coming soon to UniqueLoveStory.com). It provides professionally written love stories for weddings, anniversaries or any occasion, as it makes for a priceless family keepsake. An article of around 1000 words, it can be used in a variety of ways. For instance, if you’re getting married, it can be published on your wedding website, slipped into your invitations, presented at the beginning of your photo album or framed in the family home. Imagine being the stars of your own magazine-style article and being able to convey your unique love story to family and friends, as well as hand it down to future generations. (Wouldn’t you love to read the unique love story of your great grandparents and beyond?)

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Can Love Grow? Or Does True Love Begin with an Instant Spark?

This piece was also published on The Huffington Post. You can view that here.

I’m a few months into a relationship that began in a most unusual way – at least for me.

We met online (that’s not the unusual part) during my recent three-month stint in New York City. (I’m planning to move from Sydney to New York in early 2015, and this trip was a reconnaissance mission – or ‘reccie’, as us Aussies say.) Although better late than never, the timing was a little unfortunate, as it was three weeks before I was due to leave. Weary from the notoriously arduous NYC dating scene, and running out of time to meet and get to know someone new, I responded to a Jersey boy who emailed me. He looked cute, seemed nice, and appreciated the Goonies quote (‘Goonies never say die!’) in my profile. ‘First you gotta do the Truffle Shuffle’, he opened with. This was a good start to things.

Within a few days, we were face to face having a drink at a speakeasy-style bar near Washington Square Park. Thankfully, he lived up to his profile – he looked cute, seemed nice, and we talked and laughed easily. Our first date led to a second date led to a third date led to no longer keeping count. He kept asking me out – and I kept saying yes. While we were enjoying each other’s company, we had a talk about not feeling as though this was necessarily going to go anywhere. But we liked each other enough to hang out until I left, and keep in touch thereafter. By the time I left, though, we’d become closer than I think either of us expected. Not ‘crazy in love’ Beyoncé-style close. But close.

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Internet Surfer Girl, Trip 1: 19 Awesome Things to Read, Watch and Listen To

Every few weeks, this internet surfer girl (me) surfs the Net… and brings you back presents! Here’s your loot from surf trip 1:

Seriously funny: This performance from America’s Got Talent is gold! If you don’t LOL at least three times, check for a pulse.

‘Goonies never say die’: The Goonies is one of my favourite movies of all time. Sean Astin was my first crush, and the film brings back such vivid and wonderful childhood memories. But this person has picked it to pieces with a video entitled Everything Wrong with The Goonies in 8 Minutes. I don’t agree with it all, but it’s fun to watch. And according to my calculations, that must mean the other 96 minutes of the film are perfect!

Grammarian heaven: Every time I see ‘your’ instead of ‘you’re’, a part of me dies. If you feel the same way, you’ll love Weird Al Yankovic’s new music video, Word Crimes (to the tune of Blurred Lines).

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Robin Williams Did What I Didn’t Have the Guts to Do (Thank Goodness)

Over the past week, in the wake of legendary actor and comedian Robin Williams’ death, I’ve seen a lot of articles and blog posts pouring in on the subjects of depression, addiction and suicide. And as someone who’s had first-hand experience with all of the above, you’d think I’d be immersing myself in these pieces. Well, for some reason, it’s been the complete opposite. I’ve been distancing myself from them. Why? Perhaps because I’ve been clean and stable for four years now, and I’d prefer not to relive the nightmares. But mostly, I think it’s because, for me, these pieces are preaching to the converted. I already know suicide isn’t a cowardly act. It takes guts to kill yourself – guts I, thankfully, never had.

I spent over 15 years entertaining suicidal thoughts – from my late-teens to early-30s. The main thing that deterred me was the possibility of messing it up. Messing it up and living would be way worse than dying. Who wants to add nasty injuries (and/or lifelong institutionalisation) to their tales of woe due to a botched suicide? If I knew I could take a pill, drift off to sleep and never wake up, I probably would have. Good thing I’m a bit of a pussy, as chances are I wouldn’t be here.

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How to Come Up with an Idea for Absolutely Anything – A World Domination Summit 2014 Attendee Story You May Have Missed

It’s my last day in Portland, Oregon, where I’ve just attended my first World Domination Summit. (Finally! I’ve been wanting to attend since it started in 2011.) If the name of the conference sounds kinda lame, creepy or arrogant to you (a little Dr Evil, perhaps), let me explain. World Domination Summit is a warm, welcoming and inclusive gathering of around 3000 entrepreneurs, humanitarians and creative people who are inspired to live a life of non-conformity (usually away from traditional employment), and want to impact the world in a positive way with a special project – or ten. The three pillars of World Domination Summit are service, community and adventure.

A couple of months ago, Chris Guillebeau, the humble genius who started it all, sent out an email asking for attendee stories. There were so many great submissions that, unfortunately, mine wasn’t selected. But I’ve written it up as a blog post for y’all to enjoy. Whether it’s a business idea or birthday party idea, I hope the following helps you come up with a great idea for absolutely anything…

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You Heart NY? Here Are 17 Tips for Improving Your Relationship with New York City

Ah, New York City. Like the one that got away, it’s charismatic, seductive, full of promises… and totally dysfunctional.

Yes, despite our salacious on-again-off-again affair for a number of years now, New York and I have reached the point in our relationship where we’re starting to see each other’s flaws. That doesn’t mean I don’t still love it, but I’m beginning to question if things are going to work out between us for the long-term.

Of course, because of my deep affection for this magical place, I won’t be letting go without a fight. New York and I just need to get to know each other a little better. We need to learn how to communicate and work as a team. We need to give it some time.

I realize my relationship with New York is a polyamorous one – I’m not the only person who’s enamoured with this town. And New York, being the big slut… err, apple… that it is, opens its arms to everyone within its orbit (including the poor, tired and huddled masses, as it says on the Statue of Liberty). If you’re one of those people, even if you’re just visiting, here are 17 tips to help make your relationship with New York a little more harmonious. Hey, I’m not a jealous person. If New York and I are meant to be, we’ll be.

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I’m Sorry, But When Did Sexuality Become a Fashion Accessory?

Miranda Kerr has done it again.

With the exception of her recent separation, the Australian supermodel, wife of a movie star, mother of a gorgeous little boy, author and international household name has been inadvertently making women feel bad about themselves for over a decade. And now she’s taken it to a whole new level.

In an interview with British ‘lad-mag’, GQ, Miranda said something along the lines of being ‘open to both men and women’ and ‘never say never’, but the media is taking the bisexuality ball and running with it. Naturally. Because lesbian tendencies are ‘so hot right now’.

It’s irrelevant to me whether Miranda (or anyone) is straight, gay, bisexual, bi-curious, asexual… whatever! But when did sexuality become a fashion accessory to be trotted out like the latest trend, beauty treatment or hairstyle to make you look more attractive? Your sexuality is what it is. And whether Miranda’s attracted to women or not, I dare say she dropped that little ditty (probably at the recommendation of her publicist) to further boost her attractiveness to the ‘gentlemen’ of Gentleman’s Quarterly, and make headlines.

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F*ck Fairytale Endings: Why The Bachelor Australia was better than the American version

The first ever Australian season of The Bachelor ended last week (made all the more amusing by Rosie Waterland’s recaps on Mamamia). After watching the American version of The Bachelor (and The Bachelorette, but we’re talking about The Bachelor here) for many years, I must confess I have a love/hate relationship with this reality TV dating show. It’s my guilty pleasure.

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Integrity: The World’s Most Underrated Quality, and Why You Should Care About It

I’ve enlisted the help of some BIG NAMES to create the largest user-generated integrity resource online. Please read all the way through – then contribute!

Kids say the darndest things. My sister occasionally posts on Facebook some of the funny things my 4-year-old nephew says. Most recently, after being out of his mother’s sight for a moment, he emerged from his room and sheepishly uttered, ‘I hope Santa didn’t see that.’ Ha ha! My sister’s not exactly sure what he did, but she’s guessing he hit his 18-month-old brother.

I lightheartedly encouraged my sister to keep up the pretense that Santa knows if he’s been ‘naughty or nice’ for as long as possible, as she could use all the help she can get in wrangling her eldest son’s feisty (yet adorable) nature. I know for a fact that people behave better when they think someone’s watching – even if that ‘someone’ is a supernatural presence…

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