Tuesday 26 November 2013 --
Elly is a Four-Letter Word – Column 18 Video Intro:
The first ever Australian season of The Bachelor ended last week (made all the more amusing by Rosie Waterland’s recaps on Mamamia). After watching the American version of The Bachelor (and The Bachelorette, but we’re talking about The Bachelor here) for many years, I must confess I have a love/hate relationship with this reality TV dating show. It’s my guilty pleasure.
Yes, the idea of 25 extremely attractive and otherwise sane women competing for the time, attention and affection of one individual man who may or may not be right for them does seem ridiculous. But, as with the proverbial car accident, I just can’t look away. I love playing armchair dating coach (‘NOOOOOOOOOO, don’t tell him you love him!’), seeing who I think the Bachelor has chemistry with and why (‘Stop dumbing yourself down – he likes the smart ones!’), and picking a winner (I have a far better track record than I do with the Melbourne Cup). It’s fun being a fly on the wall of a blossoming relationship (or relationships, as there’s a bit of a polygamy thing going on here). I sometimes relate to the contestants (even the cringe-worthy ones, in a ‘Thank goodness those days are gone’ kind of way). And I imagine how I might have handled certain situations (‘Oh, I wouldn’t have been nearly as bitchy / pushy / needy / slutty / nasty / dopey / grumpy… wait, is this The Bachelor or Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs?’). As you can see, I have fun with it.
What I hate about The Bachelor, however, is the fact that most seasons end with a marriage proposal. A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL? These people haven’t even dated yet! They don’t know each other as individuals, they don’t know each other as a couple, they don’t know each other AT ALL. They have absolutely NO IDEA whether or not they could share their lives with each other. They’ve spent exactly ZERO TIME in each other’s worlds. (Meeting close family and maybe a few friends momentarily doesn’t count.) How someone behaves on fancy dates in exotic locations while cameras are rolling is a far cry from how they might behave on a Tuesday night after a rough day at work when there’s not a camera in sight. And what about how they treat each other when they’re NOT together? Does he call when he says he will? Does she give him space? How do they resolve conflict? This is just the tip of the iceberg of what needs to be taken into consideration before two people agree to spend a lifetime together. Yet, season after season, the Bachelor and his chosen bachelorette get engaged. ENGAGED? SERIOUSLY? ARE THEY MAD?! (Sorry for being so heavy-handed with the Caps Lock, but I’m quite passionate about this. I’ll explain why in a minute.)
Right up until the last few minutes of the first season of The Bachelor Australia, the show was fairly comparable to the American one. Almost all the women were enamored with the Bachelor, Tim, which I always find surprising. (I don’t care how rippling a man’s muscles are – and Tim’s were VERY rippling – surely all 25 women can’t see this one man as their perfect match.) The women often thanked the Bachelor for organizing such an extravagant date. (Um, HE didn’t organize it, you bimbo. The producers did.) The locations were wonderfully exotic. The bitchiness was deliciously tacky. And the rose ceremonies were nail-bitingly dramatic. In the end, the Aussie Bachelor sent the brunette home, told the blonde he loved her and pulled out a diamond ring… but, much to my delight, he didn’t propose. He gave it to her as a gift (it was designed to go on the middle finger of her right hand) and offered her an exclusive relationship. I found this much more romantic than watching two people who hardly know each other get engaged.
Stereotypically, Australians are very down-to-earth, so I was looking forward to seeing how an Australian might handle this delicate part of the show’s format. Sure, not ALL the American seasons of The Bachelor have ended with an engagement, but most have. (Rarely do those couples make it down the aisle, thus rendering the engagement totally meaningless.) In the case of The Bachelor Australia, I think the producers should be very happy. It might not have been a ‘fairytale ending’, but that depends on your definition of a fairytale. What are the chances of two people coming on a reality TV dating show and genuinely finding love? (I know that’s the idea, but I still think it’s a long shot.) Not only did the Bachelor tell his chosen woman he loved her (he didn’t have to do that), but he got choked up when he said it – aww. She was absolutely glowing, and it couldn’t have been more romantic, what with the sun setting over a beach in Thailand and the two of them smooching away. For a couple who are yet to have an off-screen relationship, I think that was a pretty damn good result.
So, why do I care whether or not a couple gets engaged at the end of a lame TV show? Well, because it’s not just about them and their two lives. It’s about the life of every woman (and man) watching – especially the young, impressionable ones. Fairytale endings, such as the engagement of two people with perfect bodies whose time together has consisted of little more than frolicking on secluded beaches and conversing over champagne and gourmet meals, sends the message that a lasting relationship is based on chemistry, romance and feelings (and looking good in your bathing suit). And that message has the potential to ruin someone’s life.
I spent my entire teens and 20s (and, err, early 30s) interpreting a strong ‘connection’ as love. It took me a long time to figure out that the heady feeling is only one cog in the wheel – compatibility, communication and how he treats me are of equal importance. I made the false assumption that the presence of the heady feeling meant everything else would fall into place. (Ha!) It took reality check after reality check before that notion was well and truly knocked out of me. Now, I finally know what to look for – and I know for sure it can’t be found within the confines of The Bachelor format. The idea that the couple that emerges at the end of the show is ready to get engaged is laughable at best – damaging at worst. The irony of ‘reality TV’ is that it’s not reality. The reality only begins when the TV part ends.
Sadly, while The Bachelor contestants continue to accept roses, producers refuse to accept the less-than-rosy truth that what they’re doing is flat-out wrong. These newly minted couples should NOT be encouraged to get engaged. They should be encouraged to HAVE A RELATIONSHIP first. Us viewers will still tune in – promise! In fact, we might even have a little more respect for the franchise if this were the case. Nothing wrong with airing a follow-up special if they happen to get engaged, get married or have kids.
So, Tim, thanks for being such a great first Bachelor of The Bachelor Australia. You did us proud by not bowing to the pressure of getting down on one knee and popping the question with an extravagant engagement ring you didn’t pay for yourself or discuss with the woman who has to wear it for the rest of her life. Clearly, you’re too fair dinkum for that. Good on ya, mate.
Are you a fan of The Bachelor? How have fairytale endings in pop culture affected YOU?
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Tuesday 26 November 2013 --
New Zealand teenager, Lorde, and her song, Royals, will go down in history as one of the biggest pop sensations of 2013 – and she didn’t even need to take her clothes off. Win! But because Thanksgiving (an American holiday) happens coincide with Hanukkah (a Jewish holiday) instead of Christmas (everyone’s holiday!) this year, a parody of Royals has gone viral. It’s called Oils, and it’s hilarious! So, for this week’s Song of the Week, you get two for the price of one – Royals and Oils.
Happy Thanksgivukkah, my Jewish American friends!
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Tuesday 15 October 2013 --
I’ve enlisted the help of some BIG NAMES to create the largest user-generated integrity resource online. Please read all the way through – then contribute!
Elly is a Four-Letter Word Column 17 – Video Intro:
Kids say the darndest things. My sister occasionally posts on Facebook some of the funny things my 4-year-old nephew says. Most recently, after being out of his mother’s sight for a moment, he emerged from his room and sheepishly uttered, ‘I hope Santa didn’t see that.’ Ha ha! My sister’s not exactly sure what he did, but she’s guessing he hit his 18-month-old brother.
I lightheartedly encouraged my sister to keep up the pretense that Santa knows if he’s been ‘naughty or nice’ for as long as possible, as she could use all the help she can get in wrangling her eldest son’s feisty (yet adorable) nature. I know for a fact that people behave better when they think someone’s watching – even if that ‘someone’ is a supernatural presence…
Derren Brown conducted an intriguing experiment on his show Fear & Faith (start 11min 20sec) whereby a producer took eight audience members backstage one-by-one and asked them to complete a task – a buzz-wire game that tests the steadiness of a person’s hand. As they completed the task, the producer registered each mistake on a counter. However, halfway through each task, the producer would get called away, leaving the audience member to police him or herself. Four of the eight audience members were given an additional piece of (fake) information – they were told not to touch the old chair in the corner of the room, as it was part of a show called Antiques Ghost Show, and believed to be haunted by an old lady who died in it and still sits there to this day. Three of the four audience members who heard no mention of a ghost, cheated. Four out of four audience members who thought there was a chance they were being watched by the aforementioned ghost, didn’t. Fascinating! No wonder religion has been able to keep the masses in line for centuries. ‘God’ is the ultimate babysitter.
So, what if you’re an atheist like me? Without a higher power judging our every move, what would possibly keep us non-believers in line? What kept that one audience member in the non-ghost group from cheating? One word: Integrity.
I define integrity as ‘Doing the right thing even when no one’s watching.’ Because, the way I see it, there IS always someone watching: Me! I don’t need a god – I have a conscience. My own moral compass and desire to give to rather than take from the world and those around me is all I need to be on my best behavior (most of the time), as well as mentor four underprivileged teenage girls and, someday, devote myself to a big humanitarian project. I often joke I lead more of a religious person’s life than many religious people. If that all sounds a bit Goody Two-Shoes, let me put it in selfish terms: I want to like myself. And I won’t like myself if I’m constantly doing the wrong thing by others. In my heart, I know that’s not the way to succeed as a human being.
Online dating profiles are rife with qualities singles say they’re looking for in a partner: attractive, intelligent, good sense of humor, successful, independent, well-traveled… the list goes on. But integrity – the act of adhering to a high moral standard, which inevitably leads to treating others with kindness and respect – rarely rates a mention. Instead of ‘No players, please’ or ‘Psychos need not apply’, both of which are such negative statements, perhaps singles should express that they’re looking for a person with integrity. Of course, SAYING you want someone with integrity and behaving as such are two different things. If he’s hot, but never calls when he says he will, and you choose to put up with it, perhaps integrity isn’t as high on your list as you think it is. I once dated a guy who, upon seeing that someone had left their headlights on, stopped, got out of his truck, opened the car door (which happened to be unlocked) and switched off the headlights. The driver of the vehicle would never have known that my date saved him or her from a flat battery. But he knew. And I knew. Very sexy! That was over 10 years ago, and I’ve never forgotten it. Sure, he may have been trying to impress me (and it worked), but who cares! It was still a cool thing to do. And I like to think he would have done that even if I wasn’t in the car.
Integrity is important because our world can’t function harmoniously without it, but I think it’s more than that – YOU can’t function harmoniously without it. Regardless of your religious beliefs, you shouldn’t need another human being, a god or a supernatural presence standing over you like a strict school teacher making sure you do the right thing. You should simply WANT to do the right thing because it feels good. Think of integrity as a big, delicious, healthy meal, and being selfish as a bowl of candy. Sure, the bowl of candy is tempting (and, let’s face it, you’ll probably indulge every once in a while), but it’s not going to sustain you – and you know it. A hearty serving of integrity is always the way to go.
So, what is integrity? Here are some ideas to get you started…
♥ Integrity is being warm and empathetic about the screaming baby on the plane.
♥ Integrity is letting the car in front of you merge.
♥ Integrity is helping with the dishes.
♥ Integrity is throwing your fast food restaurant or food court rubbish in the trash before you leave, or holding onto that ice-cream wrapper until you can dispose of it somewhere other than the street.
♥ Integrity is giving up your seat for the elderly, the disabled and the heavily pregnant on public transport.
♥ Integrity is responding to phone calls/texts/emails/social media messages in a timely fashion.
♥ Integrity is saying goodbye to everyone and thanking the host before you leave a party.
♥ Integrity is giving a tipsy friend a ride home.
♥ Integrity is making the bed and hanging up the towels after you’ve stayed in someone’s guest room.
♥ Integrity is being punctual.
♥ Integrity is showing up to your friend’s mother’s funeral, even if you didn’t know her very well (or at all).
♥ Integrity is breaking up with someone by telling them face-to-face that you don’t feel as though the two of you are a match, rather than leading them on with claims of needing to concentrate on your career (or the like), cheating, making their life miserable until they break up with you or disappearing without a trace.
♥ Integrity is always keeping your promises. If you say, ‘I’ll call you next week’, call next week.
To make the list more powerful, here’s what some big-name influencers had to say:
Karen Salmansohn, bestselling author of self-help gift books for people who don’t like self-help, such as How to be Happy, Dammit!:
♥ ‘Integrity is keeping your word not only to others but to yourself, because a self-promise broken can hurt just as deeply as someone else breaking a promise to you.’
AJ & Melissa Leon of Misfits Inc., a nomadic creative shop working on interesting, meaningful projects all over the world:
♥ AJ: ‘Integrity is the boldness to live your one and only Life in congruence with who you truly are.’
♥ Melissa: ‘Integrity is putting forward your best at any and all moments.’
Laura Roeder of LKR Social Media, a company that provides social media and online marketing training to help people become ‘business famous’ (I’m a graduate of Laura’s Creating Fame & Fame Camp programs):
♥ ‘Integrity is standing behind everything you do.’
Shawn Achor, positive psychology expert, founder & CEO of Good Think Inc., author of Before Happiness and giver of one of my favorite TED talks of all time:
♥ ‘Integrity is not using genes or environment to fully explain your behavior.’
Derek Sivers, musician, entrepreneur (CD Baby), author, speaker – I’m a HUGE fan of his book, Anything You Want, and TED talk about how to make a movement (3min):
♥ ‘Integrity is ignoring your knee-jerk default reaction, pausing, then doing the right thing instead.’
♥ ‘Integrity is doing what your hero would do.’
Ash Ambirge of The Middle Finger Project (best business name ever!), a company that leads by example and helps businesses stand out from the crowd:
♥ ‘Integrity is treating yourself to YOU time every single day, because you’re cheating everyone else if you don’t.’
♥ ‘Integrity is wearing your heart on your sleeve – even though it might get weathered.’
Sean Ogle of Location 180, an online business that teaches wannabe ‘location rebels’ how to live and work from anywhere and enjoy life on their terms:
♥ ‘Integrity is leaving a note with an insurance claim number after hitting a car in a parking lot when no one else was around.’ Oh, I agree, Sean – this is the ultimate test of integrity!
Marni Rivera of Kindness University, a movement that aims to teach kindness, particularly to children, and generally make the world a better place:
♥ ‘Integrity is when you don’t have anything nice to say, “SSHHHHHH”!’
Chantelle Baxter of One Girl, an organization that transforms the lives of girls and women in West Africa’s Sierra Leone:
♥ ‘Integrity is staying true to yourself and creating a life you love.’
Angela Mollard, columnist, commentator and journalist:
♥ ‘Integrity is finding out for yourself, not aligning yourself with another’s judgement of someone or something.’
♥ ‘Integrity is acknowledging when you’re wrong.’
Richenda Vermeulen of Ntegrity (hey, nice name!), a digital and social media agency:
♥ ‘Integrity is meaning what you say and keeping your word – whether it be to your husband or a stranger.’
♥ ‘Integrity is having the difficult conversation, no matter how much you want to avoid it.’
Interestingly, Richenda said: ‘I can’t tell you the countless times people are attracted to us because of the name. It also ensures we consistently have something to be accountable to.’
So, if you were to take a long, hard look at things, do YOU have integrity? Does your partner? Are you raising children of integrity? Do you surround yourself with people of integrity (family, friends, colleagues)? Your answers might surprise you – I just hope they surprise you for the better.
YOUR SUPER, AWESOME, FUN, KICK-ASS, ALTRUISTIC ASSIGNMENT:
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Tuesday 15 October 2013 --
I got hooked on a new TV series.
I was browsing the shelves at Blockbuster (yes, it’s still possible to do that in 2013 – time-capsule this post!), and it caught my eye. The show, Enlightened, stars Laura Dern and Luke Wilson, and is the story of a woman (Dern) who has recently come out of a treatment facility in Hawaii feeling all ‘enlightened’, and is attempting to apply her new-found enlightenment back in the real and unenlightened world.
The person she most wants to influence is her ex-husband (Wilson), who’s still addicted to alcohol and drugs. She also wants to make positive, altruistic changes on large scale, starting with the big company she works for that has little to no concern for its environmental impact.
I really enjoyed the first and second seasons, and was disappointed to learn HBO didn’t renew it for a third. But if you want to immerse yourself in a cast of slightly cringe-worthy characters (in a good way!) and be taken on a journey about relationships (romantic, family, friends, workmates), career and the meaning of life, I’d highly recommend you put it on your binge-viewing list.
So, for this week’s Song of the Week, I’ve chosen The Drugs Don’t Work by The Verve, because one of the themes in Enlightened is about what to do when the drugs aren’t working for you anymore. Most drinkers and drug-takers reach this point eventually.
Have you seen Enlightened? Did you like it?
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Tuesday 24 September 2013 --
Elly is a Four-Letter Word Column 16 – Video Intro:
I started reading dating and relationships advice books from the age of 11, which I’m sure sounds extremely young, but that’s when I started liking boys. I was terribly curious, and reading about boys was far preferable to experimenting with them, where I could learn from a safe distance in the comfort of my Laura Ashley-decorated bedroom (I’m showing my age here!).
It wasn’t long before the teddy bears, board games and My Little Ponies were replaced by Girlfriend, Dolly, Cosmo, CLEO, the entire Sweet Valley Twins series (which I still have in mint condition – surely they’re worth something by now) and a collection of self-help books that indulged my boy-mad brain. Thus began a love affair with love affairs – and I wanted to be armed and dangerous for when I finally stopped reading about it and started living it (which, much to my frustration, didn’t really happen until I was 15/16 – damn private girls’ school education).
The first relationship advice book I ever read was Girltalk About Guys – Honest Answers to Candid Questions, by Carol Weston, which was published in 1988. It was brilliant. I still think it’s brilliant. I have it on my bookshelf, covered in clear contact, and will never part with it. You can still purchase one called Girltalk but, sadly, I think Girltalk About Guys is out of print. (I did see it on eBay, though!)
The book that became my bible in my early-20s was The Real Rules – How to Find the Right Man for the Real You, by Barbara DeAngelis. It was a counterattack on The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, which was the 50 Shades of Grey of 1995 – an unexpected and controversial phenomenon, minus the sex – and encouraged women to go back to 1950s-style dating in order to land a husband. The Real Rules was published in 1997. It’s still in print, and I’d highly recommend it. It’s short ‘n’ sweet – and simply fabulous! It’s basically about cutting the BS, the games and the pretense, and getting yourself into a real, loving relationship. That’s not to say there was absolutely NOTHING to take away from The Rules but, on the whole, it preached a fairly disastrous approach to dating. Leave that one in the mid-90s where it belongs.
My adoration for Barbara De Angelis continued into another one of her books, Are You the One for Me? This is a great book for when you’re finally IN a relationship and want some guidance as to whether or not it’s likely to last. She explains why love, although an essential ingredient, is not enough to sustain a relationship long-term. She takes you through the 10 relationships that won’t work, fatal flaws and compatibility time bombs – and outlines your options. But it’s not all doom and gloom. She also takes you through what qualities to look for in a partner, and how to know when it’s “right”. (Psst: You’ll never know 100%, but you’ll have a fairly good idea after reading this book.)
I had a break from relationship advice books for a while until an absolute game-changer came along in 2004: He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt (a Sex and the City comedic consultant) and Liz Tuccillo (a Sex and the City scriptwriter), which was later made into a movie with an all-star cast. I have a girlfriend who hates it (the book), and we argue about it all the time, but I absolutely love it. It was the book I WISHED had been written before I was a teenager – frustratingly simple advice that I was embarrassed I hadn’t known all along. Clearly, I wasn’t the only clueless one, as it was an international bestseller, and Greg was on Oprah (twice) preaching the gospel to fellow naive females. Oprah said it was “six words that will change your life”. Well, it certainly changed Miranda Hobbs’ life – the Harvard Law-educated Sex and the City character. You can catch the episode that sparked the book, Pick-A-Little, Talk-A-Little, halfway through Season 5.
He’s Just Not That Into You is a book every woman should read. Not only that, it’s a book I’m sure every MAN wishes every woman would read, as men have a tendency to do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING other than tell you they’re just not that into you in an effort to squeeze you out of their life. I’ve had men swear black and blue that if it wasn’t for their career/ recent break-up/childhood trauma/the fact that they live somewhere else (ever heard of moving?!) or the classic “I’m just not READY for a relationship right now”, we’d be together. And I believed them. Why wouldn’t I! When you’re an honest and verbal person, as I am, you take people at their word, as you expect them to take you at yours. Ladies, it’s crap. In some instances, he may not even realize it himself, but it’s crap. For whatever reason, he’s not stepping up to the plate, and that’s all you need to know. Don’t waste a second psychoanalyzing it, waiting for him or forging ahead with the relationship anyway. Take it as a flashing neon sign that he’s not “The One”, and move on. I’m able to do that now, with finesse, thanks to this book. I think one of the best lessons you can learn in relationships, and life, is to know when to move on from something that’s not meant to be.
I’d also recommend Greg’s other books, It’s Called a Break-Up Because it’s Broken (the absolute break-up bible) and It’s Just a Date! (the absolute dating bible). Great stuff. Love Greg. And guess what – he signed all three of my books when I met him, and the incomparable Janeane Garofalo, after a stand-up comedy gig at the Sydney Opera House. Sweet!
The last relationship advice book I read, which was a couple of years ago now, was Marry Him – A Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. Published in 2010, this is a good one for women who are too picky – or, more specifically, picky about the wrong things. If you’re serious about finding a life partner, it’s worth a read.
As with any advice, whether it’s a book, a course, a tip from your mother or something a friend swears by, you need to exercise good judgment. And be particularly wary of advice that says “all” men are like this or “all” women are like that. If only it were that simple. Everyone, and everything, must be treated on a case-by-case basis. So, never take anything too literally. Arm yourself with all the information you possibly can, and then act according to the situation. Be smart, and you’ll be alright.
Relationship advice books aren’t the only books that can help you with your love life. Self-help books that aim to improve you as a person will go a long way to assisting you in finding, and keeping, that special someone. Developing your self-esteem, inner peace, communication skills, anger management or spirituality will set you on the right path. Here are some of my all-time favourites for that:
Life Strategies, by Dr Phillip C. McGraw (yep, that’s Dr Phil, but I can assure you his books are way better than his talk show – this is my No. 1 favorite self-help book).
How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie (a classic, first published in 1936, and still relevant today).
Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart, by Gordon Livingston (one of the best bits is his three-part secret to happiness: something to do, someone to love, and something to look forward to).
Do you agree with this selection? What dating & relationships advice books would you recommend, and what tips have you gleaned from them?
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Tuesday 24 September 2013 --
Onesies are so hot right now. Well, they must be. Because, this past weekend, a good friend of mine held a onesie party. A forty onesie party, to be exact. (Get it? 41. Ha ha! Clever.)
Anyway, we all arrived at the world’s most comfortable costume party in our baby jumpsuit finest. I went all out and put my hair in childhood bunches. We lounged around in front of an open fire sipping wine and consuming tasty morsels (probably a few too many morsels, in my case – everything was just so delicious).
So, as the theme of this week’s Song of the Week is ‘one’, I’ve chosen Special Ones by George. When Australians say ‘George’, they really mean Katie Noonan – the woman with the fiery red curly hair and voice of an angel. It’s fair to say Katie could sing the phone book and it would sound incredible.
Special Ones is about the realization every woman (and man, I’m sure) eventually comes to after dating a not-so-nice individual – that they don’t have to put up with shabby treatment! Instead, they can simply kick the person out of their life, and save themselves for the ‘special ones’. Funny how that never seems to occur to you when you’re high on a cocktail of chemistry and potential (which is significantly more potent than a Long Island Iced Tea). Oh, this song is magic, but mostly due to Katie Noonan’s transcendent vocal. If you’re not on Cloud 9 after listening to this, check for a pulse. And if you’re going through a nasty break-up, Dr Klein prescribes one dose of this tune every hour on the hour.
Here’s the recorded version (and lyrics):
Here’s Katie singing live (which sounds as good, if not better, than the recorded version):
Do you own a onesie? Go on – admit it!